Today's Dating Tip - Flirting (Part 2)

Sorry it's been so long, had some personal family problems - but - I'm back!

Today let's deal with the second part of our mini series on flirting. As we learned in the last post flirting can be as simple as flashing a smile. Today, let's . . .

Reach Out and Touch Someone

Touching someone in a non-intrusive way is a a great way to signal your interest. Now I don't mean grabbing or hitting someone. Be gentle. Be smooth. Be subtle.

Take her hand in yours, and ask where she got the beautiful ring. Gently touch her shoulder or back when you are walking behind her to sit down. Softly rub her arm and ask what type of material her lovely sweater is made from. . .

You get the idea. Touching her gently signals your interest but if she pulls away or flinches don't do it again!

Flirting is a fun way to 'break the ice' and it can lead to lots of dating fun. Try it - you'll like it.

Happy dating,
Ellen

PS: Thanks to all of you that have signed up for my Free series, "What do Women Really Want?" I'm really encourage by all the positive feedback I've been getting.

Today's Dating Tip - Flirting (Part 1)

Todays free dating tip is all about flirting. Everyone knows about flirting and has seen it done but many people simply don't know how to do it. Here are a couple of things that anyone can do:

Smile. That's right smile. It's easy and it conveys a world of information. Smiling at someone makes them feel at ease. Normally when you meet someone new, there is a moment of hestitation. It's natural to hold back just a little until you get some kind of sign from the person. The best sign to get (and to give) is a smile.

Todays Dating Tip: Smile - It's Easy, Free and it Works!
Smiling at someone tells them that you are pleased to see them, that you are happy, friendly and confident. It tells people that you are relaxed and glad to see them but more than that it lets people know that you aren't nervous, distracted or upset. Not smiling when you meet someone sends off all kinds of different information and none of it is positive! Work on your smile - it will pay off for you.

The second part of todays dating tip is to get caught looking. That's right - get caught!

Most people will see someone that they are attracted to, then take a quick look at that person only to turn away when the object of their desire looks at them. If you really want to let that person know you are interested, when she catches you looking, smile, hold eye contact a moment longer, then look away.

Letting yourself get caught shows that you are confident and that you aren't like the guys that look away because they are embarassed. Getting caught shows that you're interested and you are interested, right?

Get out there and flirt with someone today. It's free. It's fun. You could meet someone great!

Happy dating,
Ellen

PS: Be sure to return for Dating Tips - Flirting (Part 2) coming soon and remember, you can Date Any Woman

What do Women Really Want?

What do women really want? That's a question that has troubled men for hundreds of years. It's been the subject of many books and a movie that featured Mel Gibson.

You've probably wondered exactly what women want at various times of your life. I know that I've heard lots of guys ask the question. For years my own brother tried in vain to find the answer.

Finding the answer to that question is almost impossible - unless you have some help. I'm here to provide the free dating advice,, so I thought I'd take some time, talk to some of my girlfriends and put together a small report for your benefit. Interestingly, I've called it "What Do Women Really Want?", and it's totally free! Look for it soon, here on 'Free Dating Advice'.

Happy dating,
Ellen

How's Your 'Look'?

If you've read any of the previous articles here, you'll know that I don't worry too much about what a guy looks like. In fact, in my guide to successful dating, (shameless plug - Date Any Woman) I tell guys that looks aren't important. (OK, if you're Sean Penn or Tom Cruise you've got an edge!)

The point is that unless you're considering plastic surgery (perish the thought) you really can't do much about the way you look. Having said that, here are some things that every guy can do to improve his 'look'.

*** Get a decent hair cut. Wash it and keep it looking good. This is just part of good hygene. No dirty finger nails, stuff in your teeth or B.O.! Got it?

*** Work on your wardrobe. Your out of college and have a job - dress appropriately. If you aren't in school anymore, lose the 'frat boy' look. Spend some of that money you're making and buy some nice clothes. T-shirts, sweats and old running shoes - YUCK!

*** Get a decent pair of shoes and look after them. One of the first things a woman notices about a man is his shoes. If they are old, worn out or dirty they'll set off alarm bells in just about every woman you meet. If you can't take care of your shoes, how are you going to take care of us?

Please understand that these dating tips apply to ALL men! Looks aren't important to most women . . . . but your 'look' is important. Is your closet full of stuff from the '80's? Does your haircut match your closet? Step out of your comfort zone and make some changes. You'll see results immediately.

Happy dating,
Ellen

Valentines Day Dating Grinch

That's who I am - the Valentines Day Dating Grinch! Now, perhaps you feel that I should be writing something here to tell you how to have the best Valentines Day ever. You might be looking for me to tell you how to get that special someone to go out with you on Valentines Day. Sorry - it's not going to happen. Not today - not ever!

You see, I think that Valentines Day is just an excuse for the florists and candy makers to sell their merchandise. It's a day for the merchants and not for the people.

Now, don't get me wrong. It's really nice to get flowers and other gifts on Valentines Day. The point here is that I want a man that doesn't have to wait until Valentines Day to bring me flowers. Surprise me, delight me and make me happy ANY day of the year! There isn't a woman alive that doesn't like to be told that she's special. If you do it, just because you want to, then nothing is too good for you!

Be smart enough and creative enough to know that you don't have to wait for a number on a calendar to do something nice. Be that guy all year round and you'll never want for female company.

Happy dating,
Ellen

PS: I truly hope that you have a great Valentines Day!

Go Shopping for a Date

If you've read my last dating tip, you'll know that I'm not fond of the 'dinner and a movie' thing for a first date. Your first date should be all about getting to know each other and this is hard to do while watching a movie.

I gave you a few alternatives, but one that I had forgotten about is to just go shopping! No, I haven't lost my mind. I didn't have too much to drink while watching the Super Bowl! Read on - this really works . . . .

Lets say you are in a mall and you see a woman you'd like to meet. Assuming that she's well dressed, you walk over, smile and say, "Hi, I couldn't help but notice how great your outfit/dress/sweater etc. looks. Did you pick it out yourself?"

If she answers yes and smiles back, you can say, "I know this may seem a bit odd, but I'm kind of backward when it comes to fashion, in fact I don't think I have much fashion sense at all - I wonder if you could help me?"

"You see, I really need a new tie/shirt/sportscoat etc. If you have a few minutes, do you think you could help me pick out something nice? By the way, my name is John . . "

Let's recap: You've approached someone you're attracted to, complimented them and asked for their help. If they agree, you can spend some time together shopping and getting to know her. If she really does help you find something nice, it would only be fair for you to buy her a coffee or something, wouldn't it? After spending some time together, and it's clear that she likes you, it will be natural for you to say, "I'd really like to see you again, what would be a good time to call?" She'll answer, "I'm usually home after 6:00, but you don't have my number - it's 555-5566."

Now, I know that things won't always go this smoothly. But if she says "No" and won't help you out, then she probably isn't someone you want to know anyway. Also, if she does say no - all you've lost is a minute of your time.

One important thing to note is that if she picks out something for you - you MUST be prepared to buy it! If you don't, you are insulting her taste and that will ruin any chance you had. Remember, if you really don't like whatever she selects, buy it anyway, you can always return it!

See guys, shopping can be fun. Getting a date in a mall - who knew? Oh, and did I mention that the malls are always full of women?

Happy dating,
Ellen

Remember, you can Date Any Woman

Dating Ideas - Part 1

So, you were in a book store and you met this really great person (or so you think) and you've had coffee together and it's time to go on a date. But, where to go?

Now some people would suggest dinner and a movie. Don't do it. At this stage of the game you don't know nearly enough about the other person to make this idea work. You don't know their taste in food or entertainment at this point and movies don't allow you to talk and get to know the other person.

Dates can be traumatic and nerve-racking at the best of times so don’t make it harder on either of you than necessary. There are some great places to take a date that won’t cost you too much, will give you just enough time to talk to each other, and will also provide an entertaining distraction.

Museums, art shows, or a picnic in a park are all simple inexpensive things that will really give you a chance to get to know each other. Be a little creative. Put some thought into it. You'll be glad you did!

Happy dating,
Ellen